SAE Parent-Child Theory Paper 6: Several Caregivers / SAE 亲子论 Paper 6: 几个照料者

This paper reads the case in which a child has more than one caregiver. Father and child, mother and child, grandparents and other caregivers and the child, each form a relation of their own; an arrangement set jointly is still read person by person in each relation; "for the child's sake" does not legislate for the two grown-ups. This paper does not merge a family into one bearer for the purpose of keeping accounts. An effect one caregiver has on the child by way of another caregiver does not release the instigator from his part. A caregiver's reasons, interpretations and adjudications toward the child are not placed beyond examination: there is at least one route of external review not wholly under his control; being questioned is his own being questioned, and gives him no standing to interrogate another caregiver. Another caregiver can be one source of external questioning; where an institution exists that is fit for purpose, available, and not controlled by one party to the dispute, the principal screening may be borne by the institution; where none is present, a caregiver may defer, refer on, set boundaries, but may not upgrade these arrangements into a permanent exemption. When both parents are headed in the 15DD direction, the two can question each other: each places his own reasons, interpretations and adjudications under the other's questions; reflection after falling back may also be brought out this way. When no other co-caregiver can provide questioning of this kind, the source of external review is looked for separately among people actually available, or in fit procedures; the independence and effect of the route are checked by the particular arrangement. When one end is headed in the 15DD direction and the other treats the child merely as a means, the relation headed in the 15DD direction is read, and the other is only registered; registering the other only does not mean that the conditions it creates for the child stay out of the main text: the actual effect by which it enters this relation is read by pairwise accounting, and entered in the instigator's relation. The end headed in the 15DD direction does not avow or settle the other relation on its behalf; what he does to block the other's acts is read by the particular arrangements and effects, and protection has grounds of its own; the side involving the replacement of guardianship belongs to the institutional side. Between a child one party brings in on remarrying and the later party there is another relation, with a different starting point; grandparents and other caregivers are read the same way. This paper interfaces with the Mencius. It does not prove that the more caregivers the better, nor that a single-parent household lacks something, nor that the relation in a remarried household is shallower than the original. --- 这一篇读一个孩子身边不止一个照料者的时候。父与孩子、母与孩子、祖辈与其他照料者与孩子,各成一段;共同定下的安排,在各段里仍逐人读;「为了孩子」不替两个大人立法。这一篇不把一家人合成一个承担者来记账。一个照料者经过另一个照料者对孩子起的作用,不免除始作俑者那一段。一个照料者对孩子的理由、解释与裁断,不置于审查之外:至少有一条不完全由他控制的外部复核路径;受问是他自己受问,不给他盘问另一个照料者的资格。另一个照料者可以是外部追问的一个来源;适格、可用、且不被争议一方控制的制度存在时,主要的筛选可以由制度负担;制度缺席时,照料者可以延期、转介、设边界,不能把这些安排升级为永久免检。 父母都在 15DD 方向上时,两人可以互相追问:各自把自己的理由、解释与裁断放到对方的问下;回落以后的反省,也可能由此问出。没有另一位共同照料者能提供这样的追问时,外部复核的来源另看实际可用的人或适格的程序;路径的独立性与作用,照具体安排核。 一方在 15DD 方向上、另一方把孩子只当作手段时,在 15DD 方向上的那一段照读,另一段只登记;只登记另一段,不等于它对孩子造成的条件不进入正文:它进入这一段的实际作用,照两两记账读,记在始作俑者那一段。在 15DD 方向上的那一方不替另一段认领或结清;他挡下另一方的那些作为,照具体的安排与作用读,保护另有自己的根据;涉及撤换监护的那一面,归制度侧。再婚时一方带进来的孩子,与后来的那一方之间是另一段,起点不同;祖辈与其他照料者同读。这一篇与《孟子》对接。它不证明照料者越多越好,不证明单亲的家里缺了什么,也不证明再婚家庭的那一段比原来的浅。 English and Chinese editions in one record. The English edition is an independent rewrite of the Chinese text, not a translation; where the two differ, the Chinese governs. Related works: Cites · Publication / Preprint · DOI(8) 10.5281/zenodo.23545115 10.5281/zenodo.23545047 10.5281/zenodo.23819245 10.5281/zenodo.23819255 10.5281/zenodo.24029143 10.5281/zenodo.22313628 10.5281/zenodo.22970777 10.5281/zenodo.21314907