SAE Marriage Theory Paper 7: Staying and Leaving / SAE 婚姻论 Paper 7: 去留

SAE Marriage Theory Paper 7. This record holds the Chinese text and its English edition. The English edition is an independent rewrite of the Chinese text, not a translation; where the two differ, the Chinese governs. This paper reads how a marriage that carries the 15DD direction ends: one party's or both parties' love ends; the commitment of marriage is broken; divorce; bereavement of a spouse. The kind of marriage that is kept up after the ending is not read. This series does not write on ending separately in each paper; ending is all in this paper. The several endings can fall out of step. Where one party's love is gone and he still stands on the commitment, he is read by the commitment and not judged to be a means; that marriage already lacks one party's love, and from then on this series exits this case; this is not traced back, and this series does not turn and judge that party; whether love has ended is the affair of the one who loves, and for how the two go on from there no road is laid out. Where a person no longer stands where he promised, and lets the semblance of love hold up the other party's arrangements in his place, this is the structure of dropping; this is the leaver's reading of himself, and dropping is not reported from outside. Breaking the commitment of marriage is entered apart, and the direction of colonization falls only on dropping and falsity; breaking it does not first establish that love has moved away, and that a new love or an affair outside marriage has appeared does not on that account lead to concluding backward that the old love has ended. Leaving must be entered on the books, and there must also be an exit declaration the other party can clearly understand; the declaration is not conditional on the other party's agreement. The qualification to exit cannot be locked; whether exit is within reach in running is checked separately, and what has been sealed off is not in this series. Whether one party's staying has grounds is read party by party, not divided by who knows what; where exit is within reach, all that is taken away is the lock. The freedom to exit is read on the side of not doubting that oneself is an end: what is asked is whether the relation has left conditions of running for one's own staying and leaving; no one's non dubito is certified or denied by the state of the channels. Divorce has two steps: the exit declaration is at the layer of the relation; the dissolution of the marriage within the endorsing institution belongs to the recognition component of the exit right, and is registered by that institution's rules. Whether the two steps are completed at the same time is entered apart; merely not having obtained dissolution within the institution does not by itself prove sealing off, nor does moving out of the shared home by itself prove that exit is within reach. One party's using a construct to bear down on the other is read as between person and person. Exit does not settle shared matters, nor does it turn into a demand that "you must come back"; where one party withdraws while the two are preparing together for someone who has not yet come, this is withdrawing one's own side, and the conditions and effects already left are entered as they stand. Saying for the other party, on leaving, "Nothing was lost in all these years" slides in the direction of colonization. In bereavement of a spouse, the endorsement side goes by the rules; love is seen from the subject's side; death is not the same as the ending of love; whether there is another side after death is not judged. This paper interfaces with Hume, Milton, Hegel, Lu Xun and the Zhuangzi, and points back to the interfacing Relation Theory has already done with Aristotle on how friendship is broken off. This paper does not prove that one ought to stay, nor that one ought to leave; it does not prove that divorce is failure, nor that holding on is faithfulness. SAE 婚姻论 Paper 7。本记录收中文正文与英文版;英文版是独立重写,不是翻译,两版不一致处以中文为准。 这一篇读 15DD 向的婚姻怎样结束:一方或两方的爱结束;违背婚姻的承诺;离婚;丧偶。结束以后仍维持的那种婚姻,不读。这个系列不在各篇单写结束,结束都在这一篇。 几样结束可以不同步。一方的爱没有了而仍站在承诺上,照承诺读,不判为手段;那段婚姻已缺一方的爱,这个系列自那时起退出这一件,不追溯,不倒判那一方;爱有没有结束,是爱的人自己的事,此后两人怎样,不排路。人已不站在答应过的地方,又让爱的外观替他撑着对方的安排,是撂下的结构;这是离开的人对自己的读法,从外面不报撂下。违背婚姻的承诺分开记,殖民方向只落在撂下与虚假;违背不先认定爱已经移走,出现了新爱或婚外情,也不就此倒认旧爱已经结束。离开要入账,还要有让对方能清楚理解的退出声明;声明不以对方同意为条件。 退出的资格锁不住;运行上够不够得着,另核,被封死的不在这个系列里。一方的留下有没有根据,逐方读,不按谁知道什么分;退出够得着,拿掉的只是锁。退出的自由读在不疑自己是目的那一面:问的是关系有没有为自己的去留留下运行条件,不由通道的状态认证或否认谁的不疑。离婚有两步:退出声明在关系一层;婚姻在背书制度里的解除,属退出权的承认分量,照那个制度的规则登记。两步是否同时完成,分开记;只没有取得制度里的解除,不独自证明封死,离开共同的住所,也不独自证明够得着。一方借构去压对方,照人与人读。退出不结清共同的事,也不变成「你必须回来」的要求;一起为一个还没有来的人做准备时一方撤回,是收回自己这一侧,已经留下的条件与作用照记。离开时替对方说「这些年什么也没损失」,滑向殖民的方向。丧偶时,背书那一面照规则,爱从主体这一侧看,死亡不等于爱情结束,人死之后有没有那边,不判。 这一篇与休谟、弥尔顿、黑格尔、鲁迅与庄子对接,回指关系论已做的亚里士多德论友爱怎样解开。这一篇不证明应当留下,也不证明应当离开;不证明离婚是失败,也不证明守着就是忠诚。 Related works Relation: Cites · Resource type: Publication / Preprint · Scheme: DOI 10.5281/zenodo.19328662 10.5281/zenodo.22313628 10.5281/zenodo.22652134 10.5281/zenodo.23545115 10.5281/zenodo.23545047 10.5281/zenodo.23545023 10.5281/zenodo.23545057 10.5281/zenodo.23545087 10.5281/zenodo.23627790 10.5281/zenodo.23627776