Selective Cultivation: The Class‐Specific Logic of Positive Parenting in Middle‐Class Families

ABSTRACT Positive parenting is widely promoted as a universal, evidence‐based approach, yet its class assumptions remain unexamined. I argue it is not a class‐neutral developmental science but a culturally embedded practice tied to specific class positions. I propose Selective Cultivation , a framework distinguishing two layers of parenting competence: first‐order practices (warm communication, emotion coaching, non‐punitive discipline) and second‐order meta‐knowledge (how competitive and institutional fields actually operate). Reproduction operates not through unequal access to second‐order information —which now circulates widely—but through its unequal conversion into embodied competence, governed by three barriers: recognition, reinforcement timing, and tacit practice. This logic explains why families enacting an identical concerted‐cultivation style diverge ( instrumental vs. authentic ), and why the most intensive practitioners may raise children least equipped for structural inequality. I close with implications for family theory and the class politics of Social and Emotional Learning (SEL).