Breaking the Silence around Adultism: Reimagining Adult–Child Relationships

To The Editor, In conversations around child and adolescent development, one theme continues to be overlooked – adultism. Defined as the systemic privileging of adult perspectives over those of children, adultism persists as an ingrained bias across various micro- and macro-systems. It is often manifested in the way decisions are imposed on children without taking their perspectives, in the language of obedience over understanding and in the pervasive assumption that age equates to authority and wisdom, which consequently undermines children’s agency.[1] In schools and home settings alike, decisions about children’s lives are frequently made without their inputs, even in the matters directly affecting them. In home settings, adultism is manifested as overcontrolling nature, limiting access to resources, limited choices, patronising language and emotional neglect. In educational settings, children’s voices are too often filtered through adult-defined agendas. For instance, it becomes evident when rules are rigidly imposed or when students’ narratives are dismissed as distractions. This bias is not always intentional but it is persistent. Adults frequently make decisions on behalf of their children with good intentions but may unintentionally end up marginalising their voices. While adult supervision and guidance are vital for child well-being, the uncontested hierarchy between adults and children often leads to the suppression of children’s autonomy, self-expression and agency.[2] This is detrimental to the optimal growth of the child, leading to feelings of resentment, dependency and internalised powerlessness in a child. Thus, owing to the repercussions, these dynamics demand critical reflection. As adultism is often subtle, normalised and reinforced through generations, the challenge is not merely to critique it but to redefine adult–child relationships in contemporary times. It can involve creating safe spaces where children are seen as active social actors, who contribute equally in a conversation or building narratives. Research has also increasingly shown that when parents respect children’s decision-making, it enhances their self-esteem and reduces depressive symptoms.[3] At both micro- and macro-level systems, these shifts in adult–child relationship dynamics can take forms of participatory discussions, collaborative decision-making and respectful engagement. It is essential to note that this does not warrant the abandonment of adult responsibilities but to redefine them through the lens of inclusivity and empowerment. Authentic engagement with children does not erode adult authority – it enhances it by building trust, cooperation and mutual respect. As we strive for a more equitable, just, and empathetic society, it is time to dismantle the invisible architecture of adultism. Let us foster environments – in homes, educational institutions and policy spaces – where children are not just protected but also heard, respected and engaged as equal partners in shaping their own lives. Sincerely, Dr. Nandita Babu Financial support and sponsorship Nil. Conflicts of interest There are no conflicts of interest.