The problem with disclosing IVF status: Normative parental timelines and the gendered support needs of involuntary childless heterosexual couples undergoing in vitro fertilisation

Subfertility and infertility are stigmatising conditions impacting on the gender identity of its sufferers. Consequently, heterosexual couples undergoing fertility treatment find it difficult to disclose their condition. While research suggests that fertility treatment is an isolating and stressful experience for both partners, there is sparse literature investigating what support mechanisms exist. This study interviewed 10 heterosexual couples undergoing IVF or IVF/ICSI to explore how they constructed infertility and negotiated disclosure and support. Data were analysed using a social constructionist informed Thematic Analysis. Three themes were identified: '<i>The next step': Omnipresence of normative parental timelines; Balancing the need for social support with problems associated with disclosure;</i> and <i>Men's supportive role</i>. We argue that barriers to disclosure hinder support needs and that strategies to negotiate this would be useful to infertility patients.