Waiting for care: A reflection on (m)otherhood and siblinghood in crip time(s)

A sister of an aging disabled man tries for six years to adopt a child. When adoption is unsuccessful, anticipatory care morphs into anticipatory grief. This reflection on the intersection of (m)otherhood and siblinghood narrates the politics of waiting, asserting that grief over lost childhoods is queerly affective. In a bid to consider how such temporalities reflect Haraway’s (2016a) “making kin,” this seven-part narrative considers how (m)otherhood and siblinghood are paced through queer and crip time. For the author, the queercrip timespace of waiting is characterized by anticipatory care work that never quite ends and never quite begins.