Women who initiate divorce embrace autonomy

Abstract Objective This study investigates the coping mechanisms and resilience of women who initiate divorce, with a focus on their development of autonomy post‐divorce. Background Life after divorce is viewed as a transition period with new opportunities. This is particularly pertinent in Israel, a familistic, traditional society where family and marriage are centrally controlled by religious institutions. Method A qualitative methodology involved semi‐structured in‐depth interviews with 38 Israeli‐Jewish mothers (ages 25–70) who initiated divorce. Data analysis included identifying central motifs, creating a category tree, and using the Narrlarizer software to organize data. Results Women described their challenging roles re‐independence and control within their families, with their narratives highlighting their shift towards becoming family leaders and perceiving themselves as experiencing greater autonomy. Conclusion Women who initiate divorce act against societal norms, breaking through marital barriers to gain autonomy and control over their lives. This aligns with authentic behavior, emphasizing their strength and the reclamation of personal agency. Implications Our research provides a nuanced perspective on women initiating divorce, recognizing their liberation from patriarchal norms and gains despite diverse struggles. It underscores opportunities for reshaping women's societal roles and self‐identity, presenting divorce initiation as an act of autonomy and resistance to gender oppression, and enriching discussions on women's experiences.