The Role of the Family in the System Of Spiritual and Intellectual Upbringing of the Personality

Based on the analysis of the essence of the family, family values and relationships, the principles of upbringing of children by parents and formation of a strong personality are proposed. The relevance of the topic is due to the general recognition of the importance of raising children in the family and the insufficient elaboration of methodological developments on the purposeful formation of the personality in children by parents, the spiritual core in them, which would allow them to confidently follow their life path. It is in the family that a child receives the foundations that shape him or her as an individual, the foundation on which the entire personality structure is formed in the future. Mostly, this happens subconsciously, usually through copying parents: how they communicate, treat themselves, each other, others, what they consider right and wrong, what they like/dislike, even their manners and intonations. In this way, a system of values is laid down - what is considered important, what to value, what one cannot live without. These values then form a person's worldview, a certain civic position, behavior in society, social activity, and much more, which makes him or her (or does not make him or her) a socially responsible person capable of effective work for the benefit of themselves, their family, and society as a whole. The author analyzes the composition of the main spiritual values of the family and the principles of building a happy family: responsibility, feelings, honesty, sincerity, openness, communication, generosity, forgiveness, cohesion, traditions, flexibility. The features of relationships in the family and appropriate traditions that enhance the educational effect, allow to unite different generations in one event, and ensure the continuity of generations are investigated. The author presents the historical development of views on family education and the current state of the problem. The issues of interaction between family and school in the upbringing of younger generations, preparing them for independent life and work are considered. Recommendations on the basic rules of parenting are developed, aimed at forming a personality, a person strong in spirit and body, with a spiritual core. The results of the study can serve as a basis for the development of methodological guides for parents as a guide in the difficult task of upbringing children in a family to be self-confident and confident in the future they are ready to build as individuals. Additional research can provide the basis for creating a holistic system as a social institution for preparing parents for upbringing children.